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Bethany Griffith's avatar

I’m team dual-system (well actually, it’s a tri-system) on the calendar. Ryan and I have a shared digital calendar that is home for everything anyone is doing. I do a week ahead review each weekend and input any new items into my paper calendar that I carry basically everywhere with me. I also prefer the visualization of seeing the full calendar laid out on paper and while it is added time, I love and find great benefit to the process of manually mapping through my weekly plan. Finally, we also keep a big wall calendar in the kitchen that everyone can see that houses all of the kid activities, trips, family activities, and the dinner menu for the week. I’ve noticed Henry has started referencing it and likes to consult for countdowns to upcoming fun.

One thing I appreciate about your paper calendar approach is the added layer of control and thought it gives you around your calendar. You rarely commit to something on the spot because you don’t have your calendar in front of you. I imagine the added time to decision limits your frequency of saying yes to something that you later wish was a no. But selfishly, I’d still like you to have your calendar with you at basketball games for planning purposes 😂

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Pressley (Baird) Frevert's avatar

Our grocery setup looks a little different, but it works well for us: We do a weekly Walmart pickup (and have had just one error in almost 3 years, which I recognize makes us an anomaly/contributes to me liking this!), then buy our produce from either our town’s co-op or farmers market. Gives us time back in our lives by eliminating the big shop but still lets us be in the stores/our community. Foster and I also tend to do at least one small grocery run in person during the week (mainly because the boy drinks more milk than anyone I know).

Your point about asking real life people for recommendations really resonates with this enneagram 5! I went down a lot of scary parenting Reddit rabbit holes when Foster was a baby and had to remind myself that seldom is someone with a normal, positive experience writing about it on Reddit. I had to release the desire for the absolute BEST answer with more stress and settle for a pretty good answer with less anxiety. It is a worthy trade off, though hard for my information loving brain 😂

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